Modesty Is A Virtue
A Simple & Modest Lifestyle
Saves You Troubles
(M. Javed Naseem)
وَلاَ تَمْشِ فِى ٱلأَرْضِ مَرَحاً إِنَّكَ
لَن
تَخْرِقَ ٱلأَرْضَ وَلَن تَبْلُغَ ٱلْجِبَالَ
طُولاً
“And
walk not in the earth exultant.
Lo,
you cannot rend the earth, nor can
you
stretch to the heights of the hills.”
(al-Quran
17:37).
The race for the material wealth is on, at full speed, and
more and more competitors are joining in. Everybody knows that materialism is
causing us lots of economic, cultural and social problems, still nobody wants
to quit the race. They just want to win. And win what? There is no end to the
‘greed’ because it is built on the foundation of ‘more’.
Just 50 years ago, we didn’t have those problems that we are
facing today. The life, in general, was simple and modest. There was love,
affection, sympathy, care and warmth among human beings. Now, we have lost it
all. We are derailed as we have gone astray. We can still get back on track,
only if we try honestly and sincerely.
We need to redefine our ‘needs’ and ‘essentials’ of life
keeping in mind the goal of a ‘simple’ life. At the same time we should obey
the commands of our Creator. The Almighty God has commanded all believers
through the Holy Quran to be modest. He says:
وَٱقْصِدْ فِى
مَشْيِكَ وَٱغْضُضْ مِن صَوْتِكَ
إِنَّ أَنكَرَ
ٱلأَصْوَاتِ لَصَوْتُ ٱلْحَمِيرِ
“Be modest in your
bearing and subdue
your voice. Lo, the
harshest of all voices
is the voice of the
donkey.”
(al-Quran 31:19)
Modesty is a virtue – the virtue of the prophets and the
saints. It can only bring good and protect us from evil. It is actually a part
of our faith that will lead us to Heaven. Muslims are required to be modest in
all walks of life. The true Muslim community always encourages the believers to
be modest, kind and generous.
Modesty is a virtue that our Prophet Muhammed (s.a.w.) was keen
to stress upon. He himself had a very modest lifestyle and believed to be
simple. Modesty is a universally acclaimed virtue and most of the world’s
religions or cultures praise it. In Islam, it is a part of the faith itself. Prophet
Muhammed (s.a.w.) said:
“By God! A person is
not a believer (a
Muslim) unless he
loves for his brother
(other Muslim) what
he loves for himself.”
This Hadith makes modesty a condition of faith that one
considers others in the same way as he/she considers his/her own self. This promotes not only equality and simple
lifestyle but also eliminates the evil of selfishness from the society. A
Muslim cannot be a snob or an arrogant. He has to be considerate of others. He
is always humble. Remember that old saying our elders used to repeat to us:
“When a branch of a tree
bears fruit,
it bends (bows) down.”
Now, that is being humble and modest. You are loaded but you
are modest.
In another Hadith, one of the Prophet’s companions, Imran ibn Hussayn, narrated:
Prophet Muhammed
(s.a.w.) said:
“Modesty brings
nothing but good.”
Here is a true story from our modern times. Everybody knows
Muhammad Ali, the ex-heavyweight boxing
champion of the world. An incident took place when Ali’s daughters arrived at
his place wearing clothes that were not modest. Here is the true account as
narrated by one of his daughters:
“When we finally arrived, the chauffeur escorted my younger
sister, Leila, and me up to my father’s suite. As usual, he was hiding behind
the door waiting to scare us (great sense of humor!). We exchanged as many hugs
and kisses as we could possibly give in one day. My father took a good look at
us. Then he sat me down on his lap and said something that I will never forget.
He looked me straight in the eyes and said:
“Hanna, everything that God made valuable in the world is
covered and hard to get to. Where do you
find diamonds? Deep down in the ground,
covered and protected. Where do you find pearls? Deep down at the bottom of the
ocean, covered up and protected in a beautiful shell. Where do you find gold?
Way down in the mine, covered by layers and layers of rock. You’ve got to work
hard to get to them.”
He looked at me with serious eyes and said:
“Your body is sacred. You are far more precious than
diamonds and pearls, and you should be covered too.”
(From the book: More Than A Hero: Muhammed Ali’s Life Lessons Through His Daughter’s Eyes.)
Now, that is a beautiful piece of advice from an experienced
and wise father to his young and aspiring daughters. Indeed, it is a great
message of modesty.
Islam has elevated the status of woman by giving her more rights than other nations, but at the same time granting her a lot more respect for her modesty. In the Western materialistic cultures, a woman is an object of physical pleasure. A pretty model or a blonde actress of film/TV commercials can attract big crowds (clients). She becomes a ‘sales tool’ in the hands of traders. But if you ask those who come to see her, they will tell you that they came because they ‘liked’ her, and not because they ‘respected’ her. It is her physical (sexual) attraction. On the contrary, a modest and pious woman is considered a treasure in Islam and men are considered lucky to have such a wife. She is more valuable than all the gold and silver you can possess.
Prophet Muhammed (s.a.w.) was once talking to Umar bin al-Khattab (r.a.a.) and said:
“Let me tell you what the best thing is to safeguard as treasure. It is the woman who is pious and modest that when her husband looks at her, he gets happiness from the sight of her. And when he tells her to do something, she obeys him. And when he goes away temporarily, she respects the limits of Halal & Haraam and protects his property including her own honor.”
Some people misinterpret modesty. They think it is like
poverty. Not at all! Modesty is a great quality that springs from contentment.
When you are satisfied and content with whatever God has provided for you, you
are modest. There are millions of examples of people living in different eras who
had the means and the wealth but they chose a modest lifestyle. Simplicity is a
part of modesty. A modest life is a simple life, close to nature and far from
material corruption. Living within your means also falls within the limits of
modesty.
Zakat is payable on the money that you possess, store,
invest or keep it for one year. His son Shoaib narrates that during certain
times his father’s income was around 25 thousand Dinars per year but he was
always under debt. Zakat was never due from him. The amount of income kept
fluctuating during different periods of time but he always gave away his money
in charity. So, at the end of the year he never had a taxable amount.
One day a woman came to Laith bin Saad with a small empty
cup and said that she needed some honey. Laith gave her a whole leather-bag
full of honey. Somebody said: O Laith! She was only asking for a little bit of
honey but you gave her a whole bag. Laith replied:
‘She asked for it according to her need. And I gave her
according to my capacity. Allah has blessed me with His bounties, therefore, I
cannot hold back.’ Allah-o-Akbar!
Those who understand Islam, they know that modest living can
protect them from material problems or corruption. Despite the fact that
sometimes they had a lot of money, they used only what was sufficient for their
needs. The rest of it they shared with the less fortunate. When you lead simple
life, you are modest in your appearance too. Men are not allowed to wear silk
clothes and gold jewelry, and women are asked to pay Zakat on their jewelry.
Gold and silver utensils are not allowed in a Muslim household. Muslims should
look modest in their clothing too – no luxury robes. And then comes the modesty
of character. The Almighty (Allah) directed all believers to be modest. He says
in the Holy Quran, Surah al- Noor (An-Nur), Ayah 30 and 31:
قُلْ
لِّلْمُؤْمِنِينَ يَغُضُّواْ مِنْ أَبْصَارِهِمْ وَيَحْفَظُوا
فُرُوجَهُمْ ذٰلِكَ
أَزْكَىٰ لَهُمْ إِنَّ ٱللَّهَ خَبِيرٌ بِمَا يَصْنَعُونَ
“Say to the believing men that they should
“Say to the believing men that they should
lower their gaze and guard their modesty;
that will make for greater purity for
them. And
Allah is well acquainted with all that
they do.”
(al-Quran 24:30)
وَقُل
لِّلْمُؤْمِنَاتِ يَغْضُضْنَ مِنْ أَبْصَارِهِنَّ وَيَحْفَظْنَ
فُرُوجَهُنَّ وَلاَ
يُبْدِينَ زِينَتَهُنَّ إِلاَّ مَا ظَهَرَ مِنْهَا
وَلْيَضْرِبْنَ
بِخُمُرِهِنَّ عَلَىٰ جُيُوبِهِنَّ وَلاَ يُبْدِينَ
زِينَتَهُنَّ إِلاَّ
لِبُعُولَتِهِنَّ أَوْ آبَآئِهِنَّ أَوْ آبَآءِ بُعُولَتِهِنَّ
أَوْ أَبْنَآئِهِنَّ
أَوْ أَبْنَآءِ بُعُولَتِهِنَّ أَوْ إِخْوَانِهِنَّ أَوْ بَنِيۤ إِخْوَانِهِنَّ
أَوْ بَنِى
أَخَوَاتِهِنَّ أَوْ نِسَآئِهِنَّ أَوْ مَا مَلَكَتْ أَيْمَانُهُنَّ
أَوِ ٱلتَّابِعِينَ
غَيْرِ أُوْلِى ٱلإِرْبَةِ مِنَ ٱلرِّجَالِ أَوِ ٱلطِّفْلِ
ٱلَّذِينَ لَمْ
يَظْهَرُواْ عَلَىٰ عَوْرَاتِ ٱلنِّسَآءِ وَلاَ يَضْرِبْنَ
بِأَرْجُلِهِنَّ
لِيُعْلَمَ مَا يُخْفِينَ مِن زِينَتِهِنَّ وَتُوبُوۤاْ
إِلَى ٱللَّهِ
جَمِيعاً أَيُّهَا ٱلْمُؤْمِنُونَ لَعَلَّكُمْ تُفْلِحُونَ
“And say to the believing women that they
“And say to the believing women that they
should lower their gaze and guard their
modesty; that they should not display
their
beauty and ornaments except what (must
ordinarily) appear thereof; that they
should
draw their veils over their bosoms and not
display their beauty except to their
husbands,
their fathers, their husband's fathers,
their sons,
their husbands' sons, their brothers or
their
brothers' sons, or their sisters' sons, or
their
women, or the slaves whom their right
hands
possess, or male servants free of physical
needs, or small children who have no sense
of the shame of sex; and that they should
not
strike their feet in order to draw
attention to
their hidden ornaments. And O Believers!
Turn you all together towards Allah,
that you may attain Bliss.”
(al-Quran
24:31)
The woman gets concession when she is among the family
members. Otherwise, both men and women have the lines drawn – the limits or the
‘Hudood’ in this respect. The rules have been laid down, clear in black and
white.
I live in a so-called Arab Muslim country and always see the young girls on the beach in their bikinis. Some of them are dressed far worse than the non-believing Western women. Even the young women who wear Hijab, dress up in very tight jeans, revealing pants or shorts, skimpy blouses and all kinds of skirts. It is a shame to see the city streets full of ‘sexy’ looking objects, and not self-respecting young ladies. There is no doubt that their parents will get their share of punishment for not bringing up their children according to the teachings of the Quran and Sunnah.
How strange that people feel the heat of the summer to dress
up half-naked and do not feel the heat of Hellfire that is waiting for them!
Here is another Hadith quoted by Al-Bukhari in al-Adab al-
Mufrad, Ibn Majah, and al-Hakim. They quote our Prophet Muhammed (s.a.w.) as
saying:
“Modesty is part of
faith, and faith leads
to Heaven; while
vulgarity is part of unfaith,
and unfaith leads to
Hell.”
It is unfair to blame the society or the surroundings for
all the evil in our lives. We are the
society; we are the community and we are responsible for the surroundings.
The Western world considers the famous Indian leader,
Mahatma Gandhi, as the most influential personality of the twentieth century.
In some quarters he is treated like a saint. Indians, in general, and Hindus in
particular, claim Gandhi as the greatest ‘son of India ’. He always preached modesty
and showed the world his simple lifestyle. In 1937, while he was addressing the
Indian Congress party government’s cabinet of ministers, Gandhi advised all
cabinet members to lead simple life. He said:
“I cannot give you
the examples of Ram
Chandra and Krishna , because they were not
the historical personalities.
I have no other
choice but to give
you the examples of Abu
Bakr and Umar (bin al-Khattab)
– the first
two Caliphs of Islam
– as symbols of modesty
and simple life. They
were the rulers of a great
empire but all
their lives they lived like beggars.”
(Quote from
‘Hareejan’, dated 27th July, 1937).
Amazing, isn’t it? The funny thing is that non-Muslims
appreciate the teachings of Islam, whereas we Muslims don’t even care about it.
As Muslims, we are terrible role- models for others. It is time to get up and
play the role we are supposed to play for the sake of our future generations.
We should act with care and responsibility.
We are gradually losing our identity. We better do something
quickly about it before we lose everything – this world and the Hereafter. We
should revert to our origin. As every child is born in the nature of Islam,
therefore, Islam is our origin and Islam teaches us to live a simple and modest
life.
May Allah guide and help us all – Aameen!
(From my book “A Wake-up Call”, published in 2010)
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